Toke Makinwa, a well-known media personality, has admitted that she would have remained married to her ex-husband Maje Ayida if they had children.
She stressed on her podcast that she does not judge women who choose to stay in abusive marriages for the benefit of their children when she made this statement. The television celebrity claimed that she would have followed suit since she did not want to subject their children to the anguish.
Makinwa said, “A lot of women stay in unhealthy marriages for the children. For the longest, you hear so many women say things like, ‘the marriage is done but I only stay for my kids. And I’m going to be honest here, if I have had a kid while I was married, I may have been one of those women.”
She mentioned her own trauma of losing her parents when she was just eight years old and how she would not want the children to experience the same. She remarked that she continually imagined what her life would have been like if they had been there.
In her words, “Because I also had the trauma of losing both parents at the age of 8. I mean, I was adopted. I have a great life which I’m thankful for but there were times that I wondered what life could have possibly been like if that didn’t happen. So, for the sake of my children, I may have had to compromise just because I wanted them to have mum and dad. I may have been one of these women. So, I’m not even judging anyone right here.”
Makinwa continued by saying that she would have made other decisions then if she had known what she knows today.
“I was young at the time. If I was at this age, a lot of decisions I took, I probably would not have taken. Because now I’m wiser and have a better understanding of life,” she added.